Psychologists told how to get rid of the habit of screaming at the child
Often, even good and caring parents raise the voice on your child. With the help of anger, they demonstrate their extreme displeasure with the actions of the baby. As a result, the child begins to obey only when the mother or father shouts. Calm tone ceases to be perceived by the child as a guide to action.
Recently, it is increasingly possible to hear in a store, at a bus stop, on the street, as adults shout at a child, insult him, call him off, sometimes even use obscene expressions, from which even adults, to put it mildly, jars.
Family psychologists from Tatarstan decided to sort out this problem and find the keys to get out of it. The results of their research, they today published in the media.
Loud education, they argue, creates a "vicious circle" —the mother yells at the child, the child grows up and yells at her children, who, as adults, completely borrow the manner of communication and apply it to their own children.
Parents who do not skimp on expressions need to remember that this circle also has a reverse movement - children who grew up with parental mothers and cries just then talk to their aged parents.
Resentment in a man who was shouted at childhood is hiding at the deepest level. It is difficult to express it, it is almost impossible to get rid of it later.
Most often, moms and dads yell at children not even because a particular situation requires it, say psychologists. They do this in order to demonstratively show others that they are engaged in education, do not disregard the actions and words of the children.
Experts advise to break the vicious circle today, not postponing it for later.
From adults will need to monitor their emotions and words. If you want to shout, it is better to leave the room and go into it in a few minutes, when the desire to shout subsides.
Parents need to review their daily routine, allocate time so that a couple of hours remain to devote them to the child - draw together, play board games, take a walk before going to bed in the park. It is better to leave non-normative vocabulary at work if it is accepted in the team.