Aggression in a child of 7 years: the advice of a psychologist
Sometimes the parents of a child who has started going to school or is still going to enroll in the first grade will face the problem of attacks of aggression in a baby. How to behave in this age crisis and what to do if he does not obey his parents and teachers?
Aggression in children is a negative reaction to various actions or comments of others.. If the child is raised incorrectly, this reaction from the temporary one can develop into a permanent one and become a feature of his character.
Sources of aggressive behavior of the child can be somatic diseases or diseases of the brain, as well as improper upbringing. Another reason for this behavior may be age crisis.
At this time, children begin to realize themselves as students, and this is a new role for them. This contributes to the emergence in the child of a new psychological quality - self-esteem.
Watch the video about the causes of the crisis in children at the age of seven and methods of overcoming it:
Why does not obey?
From now on, this is no longer a little baby, but a real adult man, who is striving to become independent. At the age of 6-7, children lose their natural childishness, so they specifically begin to wriggle and behave unreasonably. The reason for this is that children begin to separate the inner “I” from the external behavior. They are aware that their behavior can cause a reaction from others. Unnatural behavior shows that this is just a child experiment, although because of such experiences of the baby, the parents are very worried and worried. Besides, it becomes difficult for the child to lay down to bed or send to wash, an unusual reaction appears:
- neglect of requests;
- thinking about what to do it;
- contradictions and bickering.
Children in this period revealing violate the prohibitions of parents. They criticize any rules that are not set themselves, tend to take the position of adults. The existing principles are understood by the child as a childish image that needs to be overcome.
Why does a child make croaking sounds?
There are cases when children begin to emit various sounds: croaking, lowing, tweeting, and the like. This may be just a continuation of their experiments, but this time with sounds and words. If your child has no speech problems, then there is no cause for concern. If there are any defects or stuttering, you need to consult a doctor.
- Express approval for the independent actions of your child, let him stay autonomous;
- Try to become an adviser, not a prohibitor. Maintain in difficult moments;
- Talk with your child on adult topics;
- Learn his thoughts on the subject of interest, listen to him, this is much better than criticism;
- Let the child express his opinion, and if he is wrong, then delicately correct him;
- Allow yourself to acknowledge his views and express your consent — your authority is not in danger, and your offspring’s self-respect will be strengthened;
- Make it clear to the child that he appreciates you, respect and understand that with his failure, you will always be around and will assist you;
- Demonstrate to the child the possibility of achieving the goal. Praise him for success;
- Try to give answers to all questions of the child.Even if the questions are repeated, patiently repeat the answer.
Classes for children 6-7 years
Reduce un-stimulated aggression of the child will help actions that show him that there are other opportunities to attract attention and show strength. To look like an adult, you do not need to approve at the expense of those who are weaker, and use bad words for irritation. The following methods are recommended for emotional discharge:
- Tear into pieces the paper that you constantly need to have with you;
- Shout loudly in a special place;
- Exercise, run and jump;
- Knocking out rugs and pillows will be useful;
- Practice hitting the punching bag;
- Water games help very much (contemplation of water and its inhabitants in aquariums, fishing, throwing stones in a pond, etc.)
How to find a common language?
With bouts of aggression in a child, parents need to be calm and restrained. You need to try to understand what your child feels. The most important thing is to love and understand your baby, give him more attention and time.
Unconditional love is the best way to deal with aggressiveness. Moms and dads are well aware of their children and are able to prevent unexpected outbursts of anger. Curbing physical aggression is easier than verbal manifestation. At the time of rolling emotions, when a child pouts, blinks his eyes or otherwise demonstrates his displeasure, you should try to redirect his attention to another object, activity, or just hold on. If the aggression could not be stopped on time, it is necessary to convince the child that it should not be done that way, this is very bad.
How to deal with shyness?
In addition, at the age of 7 years, children begin to pay attention to their appearance, clothing. They tend to look like adults. The child first critically assesses their behavior. During this period, shyness can develop very easily, the child is not always able to adequately assess the opinions of others. An incorrect assessment of what is happening can frighten a child and make them afraid of attracting attention to themselves. There may be difficulties in establishing contacts. But sometimes children are just naturally shy.
How to help?
A shy child is more susceptible, often others are not able to understand him. Moms and dads are encouraged to emphasize more often the good qualities of their children. Thus, it is necessary to cultivate his self-confidence. Under no circumstances do you need to be angry with your child for his shyness. He can feel himself in something flawed, different from the rest. This can badly affect the formation of his character. As an adult, a person will remember his childhood offense. A child will not become courageous and decisive from constant reproaches, but he is able to withdraw into himself from this.
Here are three easy ways to help your child:
- Report on how people behave.
- Show how people feel.
- Do not inspire negative.
I hope, I have clearly stated the essence, if you need additional explanations, I am ready to answer your questions.
Recommendations of the psychologist in the manifestation of aggression in a child, see the following video.
The opinion of Dr. Komarovsky about the actions of parents you can find out by watching the following video.